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Linden Heights
Baptist Church "The Church With Open Arms" |
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| Rules and Guidelines for Chaperones: 1. Chaperones must be at least 21 years of age to accompany an over night trip. 2. Transporting youth to their homes or from one place to another is only permitted if: a. It is an extreme situation b. A parent has asked you to, or you have obtained permission from a parent c. There are more than one youth in the car d. There is another adult with you e. You are part of a caravan of cars and there was only one child left over. We encourage parents to take an active role with their children. Transporting their children is not the responsibility of Linden Heights, and some children may become dependant on a person from the church for rides. If a parent is unable to transport their child, you may do so at the request of the parent. Unfortunately, in today’s society, we can not be too careful to make sure there is no appearance of evil. It is always good to have a witness. 3. All movies seen with a youth present must be approved by at least one adult PRIOR to the event in which it will be watched. No Rated R Movies. 4. Rule of thumb for chaperones: Ratio should be 1:6
Discipline Strategies 1. Warning 2. Privileges taken away (must stay with an adult for the day, no game time, etc) 3. One pass for a FREE RIDE HOME. The child will be sent home and their parents called. Please note that "Free Ride Home" means that it is free for the church. If we have a problem with a child that cannot be resolved, the parents are obligated to pick them up immediately-regardless of where the event is taking place. Repeat offenders: May not be able to go on future activities (but may always come to Sunday School, Worship and Bible Studies, of course!). Hopefully we will never have to get to step 2! But things do happen, so I made this guideline in the event we should have to use it. I have an explanation for every rule, so if you have a question, please feel free to bring it to me!
A few guidelines: 1. Never discipline a child in front of another child. Try to pull them aside separately, and say calmly, but sternly, what is going to happen. 2. Never embarrass the child in any form. Their self esteem at this age is so fragile that it may scar them. 3. Never raise your voice unless absolutely necessary. 4. Do not let a youth manipulate you. You are always the adult in the situation, and it is fine if they get mad or ‘hate’ you for a while. They will get over it. You can talk to the other leaders for signs of manipulation from certain youth. Strategies for Conflict Resolution If one of the youth comes to you with a problem they are having with another youth, do the following: 1. Have the youth talk to the person they are having a conflict with, BEFORE ANYONE ELSE. 2. Have a meeting with both parties, and act as the mediator by asking questions, and making sure both sides are heard. Make sure that when you send one youth to talk to another about their problem, you tell them how to resolve it first. Most youth do not know how to resolve conflicts. Remind them that they should not talk to the person while they’re angry. They should sort out their thoughts first, then go in and ask questions to the other person. Let one person talk at a time. Do NOT interrupt or accuse each other of absolute things (using the phrases ‘never’, ‘always’, ‘forever’, etc). Tell them to listen to the other person until that person has said all he or she has to say, and then respond only to what that person has said. Then state your case and work through it. Make sure to share the situation with the other youth leaders so everyone can be aware. Communication is the key to everything we do.
Always, Always, Always, have fun with the kids, laugh with them, dance with them, appreciate their sense of humor. They will keep you on your toes, but will also make you laugh more than you’ll know. Love them where they are, appreciate them for who they are. Working with youth is one of the great pleasures in this world. All youth need at this point in their lives is to know they’re loved and to have someone listen to them and sometimes give them tough love. We can do that.
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